I have a friend going through a major deal in her life. When I found out, I was ashamed of myself for whining about having to move again. I apologized to my friend. My friend replied with something so elegant and graceful:
Bobbi, hard for anyone is "tailored" to each of us. Your hard is no less important, no less painful, no less of a struggle than my version of hard.
Your sharing your hurt and stress is actually a blessing. It gives me a chance to be there for you, if I can. Gets me out of my own little world a little bit, and I am grateful for distraction at this point, let me tell you!
By the way, I think anyone who minimizes someone else's "hard" is out of touch with their own...or has "issues" when it comes to "hard." ;'DI am so blessed to call this person a friend! She's validated my hurts, and blessed me with her kindness. Thank you my friend. I love you and I'm praying for you.
I hope each one of you have a special friend like this.
Blessings until next time!