Thursday, June 23, 2011

FB-not a place to share your REAL feelings!

On a side note, we made it to the Amarillo area.  sigh~  We don't even know if we ACTUALLY have a job here.  LONG story.  Time will tell. 

I left Facebook.  It was something I already had been planning to do, but after the other day, I decided I had enough.  I was really, really hurt by some of my friends.  I know we aren't suppose to live by our feelings, but I really just needed encouragement the other day, and instead I felt judged, misunderstood, and they were giving me advice on stuff they have NO (completely none) understanding about!

My family and I live in an RV.  We do it because we have to go where the work is, not to mention it's how we keep our family together. Our house is currently leased out.  We might not even get to move back in.  We could be facing foreclosure.  The bank said they would refinance the note, and then never did anything about it, even after we did everything we were suppose to do.  They said, wait and don't make anymore payments, after they decided we needed to pay over $5000 a month, for 6 months! That was several months ago.  That's just part of the story....

Then "friends" on FB say, "time for a change hun" and "set daily goals...."
SERIOUSLY????  SET DAILY GOALS????  Do YOU know what it's like to live in an RV and not know from day to day where you'll be and what you'll be doing?  some how I SERIOUSLY doubt it!!!  What can I change?  I have had a fairly great attitude about "my adventures" over the past 10+ years, but now I'm tired.  I'm stressed....and now I'm hurt!

The only daily goals I can set are spiritual goals, and physical goals of what I eat, time I get up, doing laundry, making dinner.  I can not plan anything....EVER!!!!

All I wanted was someone to say it's okay, it will get better.  I didn't need or want your advice on life...since you obviously don't get mine!!!  I was extremely hurt by that, so I left FB, and I don't plan on going back.  And I seriously doubt the person that said that will even see this.  And if she does, well then maybe that's a good thing.  I don't want to mention names, I don't want to be mean, but I am extremely hurt by this situation.  :( 

I know many people don't understand.  At this point it probably doesn't even matter.  :( 

For those of you that have been praying, I ask that you continue to do so.  I really appreciate not only your prayers, but your words of encouragement. 

I received one of the sweetest words of encouragement the other day from my friend, BK.  I surely hope she doesn't mind me sharing it.

Okay, my beautiful friend
You're sounding pretty frantic and I just wanted to let you know that I love you and am praying for you. I can't even imagine how deeply weary you must be of the constant change. I don't have any wise words for you but I DO want you to know that I think you're amazing, even when you're falling apart. And it's okay.

big hugs to you, Bobbi ((((((((((((((((((((((((Bobbi))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
love ya,
          bk

5 comments:

Susan said...

Yes, that indeed is a friend. Thank God for those kind of friends. They are jewels and far between.

Cammie (CHFweb) said...

Praying for you and your family as you continue on in your adventure. While I may never know or understand your pains, fears, or stresses, I do know the one who does knows. Hang on to the Lord with all you have. I will be praying for you to have peace in the midst of this storm.

Oney said...

Hi Bobbi,
Hey I understand about FB. You know what I ended up doing? I "hid" everyone's status updates/posts except my immediate family and a couple homeschooling pages and Ann Voskamp's page. I just couldn't take the snarkiness...

Hugs to you.
Oney

Stacey said...

I read this yesterday but had to run. I'm glad, actually, because it let me think about all you wrote. You know, sweetie, I thought all this time that you just loved living life in the "adventure mobile" (RV) and that you were just way more adventurous than I am. Knowing that you have been showing such grace and contentment through all these years just gives me way more respect for and admiration of you, my dear friend. I just love you, Bobbi!

And, BTW, my experience with FB is that most people either post idiotic things because they think it's proof of their superiority OR they are just plain idiots. If you enjoy FB, don't let someone else steal your joy away. Just remove that "friend" connection because they aren't really a true friend.

((((BIG HUGS 4 BOBBIE))))

Love ya,
Stacey

Joy said...

I have hid many people, including family because of this. You can definitely count on my prayers.